It is pretty crazy how nuts life can get with a baby. I mean, life can get pretty busy without a little one running around, but trying to plan life in between nap times and diaper changes can get a bit loco! Busyness has gotten the best of me for the past few weeks, so the blog has been a bit quite. My apologies!
One of the things that has been keeping me busy are ‘baby blind dates’. Yes you read correctly. Baby blind date is the term I have given to what is otherwise known as the playgroup. Does the first time you go to a playgroup not feel like a blind date?? There is no way of knowing exactly who will be there until you arrive (unless its a friend organized group), you may need to make painfully awkward conversation the whole time. Will you and the other mom’s even get along? Will you and your baby want to return to the playgroup again for a second date? Admittedly, I have never actually been on a blind date but these are a few of the things that always terrified me about even considering one. So many unknowns! Please tell me I am not the only one that complete dreads the baby blind date.
I am absolutely terrified of new social situations. Mostly because I am very shy, but the thought of having to engage in new social interactions makes my heart beat faster.
This aversion tends to make meeting new people pretty difficult. It is not that I don’t want to be social and make new friends, in fact I love actually getting to know new people ( I know, I know…it sounds like I am contradicting myself!). I think it is that first step that makes me nervous. You know, that awkward ‘hi, my name is…’ moment. If I am able to push past my nerves to get over that first hurdle, things tend to go much smoother.
The first few months of my sweet little love’s life was a breeze when it came to getting out and being social….. because I didn’t really have to do anything ;). He was so little, and it was winter. Neither of us really seemed to want to get out and explore. But now that the weather is nicer and my baby is older, I know that its time to get out there and ‘meet people’. Can you feel me cringing as I type this?? If it was only for my benefit, I would be a bit more reluctant to actually do anything about my social fears, but I know how important it is for my little love to make new friends so I am trying my best to just get over it.
Getting ready for a baby blind date gives me that stupid ‘butterflies in my stomach’ feeling. I literally change my outfits at least twice and practice my opening lines (please don’t make fun, I am being serious):
“Oh hi, your daughter/son is so cute”
“Hi there, how old is he/she?”
“Do you live around here?”
And of course, I can’t forget to smile….I have to look approachable right??? Ugh, I feel so stressed just thinking about the whole thing!
My son is pretty well behaved at home, but on top of everything else I am always so nervous that he is going to transform into this crazy baby that no one will want their kids to hang out with! Tell me that I am not the only one who feels this way, or am I being completely irrational?
The few times we have gone to playgroups or to the park have been great for my little love. He has even started making some little baby friends, it’s pretty cute! I ,however, have not been so successful. I have found that everyone else is just as shy as I am or already have their predefined ‘mommy cliques’, so I haven’t really made any real connections.
At almost 8 months, it really is time for my little love to make some more friends…..and for me to find other like-minded moms to help me keep my sanity. Thankfully, I do have a few friends that are also at home with their babies so we meet every once in awhile but it’s time to expand my mommy/baby circle.
So with that in mind, I am curious to hear your best baby blind dating tips!!